Behavior Consequences for Kids
Raising kids is no joke. We are all trying to be the most effective parents possible and as parents we can all agree that we want the same for our children. Emotional and physical safety, connection, boundaries, patience, but what about virtues? The one area of parenting many of us struggle with though is what age should we be expecting our child to mature enough to handle a value or virtue? Such as kindness, honesty, fairness, responsibility etc. How do we encourage it or reinforce it?
The solution…. a Behavior Consequence Chart for kids.
I’m thrilled to share with you Tim Smith’s Consequence Planner for Kids.
Not only will this offer guidance for parents with children age 1-18 year old, it may just be inspirational too.
I appreciate the ideas for positive and negative consequences that come with each age and responsibility.
Whether you agree with what is on the chart below or not, you may be like me and appreciate the guidance. Don’t feel intimidated… It’s a little like my Life Skills Chart, I always feel like I’m about 2 years behind. But I am happy to see there is something out there to guide me.

Using the Behavior Consequences Chart
A True Story! For my eldest son’s 9th birthday he asked for a new privilege. I think we’ve give him a new privilege on past birthdays but I can’t remember what they were now! Mom Brain!
Check Your Privilege Chart!
I couldn’t think of anything, so I found my copy of the Consequence Planner. It recommended self-control and getting up on time for school.
It was the night before his birthday and my husband came up with the brilliant idea to given my son an alarm clock…. but, it was too late to go to the store! What to do? We took the alarm clock right off my dresser and wrapped it up for him. He never noticed!
Perfect gift and it fit right in with the age 9 virtue on the chart. Win!
I Love My Kids But…
Today we might feel like we’re winning and the next day is the most challenging. But, we keep going and begin again.
I’ve found that most parents are just winging it. Showing up each day, doing their best and trying again. I hope you find this guide to be as valuable as I did.
Printable link underneath the chart.
Consequence Chart from The Danger of Raising Nice Kids
From The Danger of Raising Nice Kids by Timothy Smith (IVP, (c) Timothy Smith 2006) Used with permission.
>>>>>>>> Printable version click here <<<<<<<<<<
I asked for permission to use two charts from Tim Smith’s book, The Dangers of Raising Nice Kids. The Consequence Planner (above) and The Countdown to Independence Chart.
They were the two documents I wanted to enlarge to poster size for my house! I NEED the daily reminder of where I’m going and where I’ve been in parenting!
Recommended Parenting Books
If this book interests you, may I also suggest The Five Love Language and Boundaries with Children.
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Completely loving this chart!! I think I need it poster sized too. 🙂
Glad I’m not the only one who needs to super-size this!