Life Lessons for My Sons
Have you made a list of things you want your children to learn from you? There are so many things we want to teach our children, the list seems insurmountable. I’m not talking about learning how to read or how to cook. I mean the life lessons that happen when you’re doing life together. When your child watches how you interact with the waitress or how you volunteer your time. The lessons you want to teach them about relationships, jobs, life, and unconditional love.
Here is my list of Life Lessons. I wrote them specifically for my sons, but they can be for daughters or just people in general. I too am learning and growing everyday. My hope is that as I experience life with my children, I’ll be able to weave in these invaluable lessons.
Life Lessons I Want to Teach My Children
- Give back. Don’t let a day go by without doing something for someone else. It’s as easy as holding the door for someone. It makes them happy and makes you happy too.
- When you’re in your twenties – you’re still learning and growing. You’ll understand in your 30’s.
- Invite the new kid to sit with you on the bus or eat with you at lunch.
- Be creative! You have a unique set of gifts and talents. Everyone needs creative outlet. After all, you grew up with a mom wielding a glue gun and a dad who drew pictures for you.
- Be passionate about your job. You don’t have to keep the same one the rest of your life, but like what you do.
- We all have to do the grunt work sometimes. It doesn’t matter how educated you are or how much money you have.
- Start saving money early.
- Irresponsible actions early in life can alter your ability to get the job you’d like in the future.
- Go on vacation with your family at least once a year. Families need to learn how to vacation with one another. The memories you’ll make and bonds you’ll form are worth every penny.
- Always say “Thank You” and send thank you notes (that you’ve written).
- Live without debt. Money problems ruin marriages, friendships, and jobs.
- Treat the waitress with respect.
- Do not settle for a spouse. Wait. God has just the right one for you and we’ve been praying for her.
- Sex is great – just save it for the one you love!
- Depression is hard to handle. If you struggle with it, get help.
- Having a relationship with God is important. One way to continue to grow and learn is by being active in your church.
- Laugh! It’s the best stress reliever and can act as the glue that holds people together.
- Understanding The Five Love Languages is a simple way to have a healthy relationship with your spouse.
- Be mindful of what you watch on TV or the internet. Too much of a bad thing is bad.
- Everyone needs to have boundaries in their relationships. It’s too easy to get pulled in every direction.
- You don’t need alcohol, drugs, or cigarettes to have a good time.
- The best thing you can do for your children is to love (and respect) your spouse. (from Gram)
- No fish handshakes! Have a firm handshake, it shows your confidence. (from Grandad)
- Work Hard, Play Hard. (advice given to your aunt when she graduated from high school)
- Be careful about engaging in emotional relationships with women who are not your wife.
- Give back to your community. While you’re doing good for others, it really does the most for you!
- Try to use your time wisely. Too much free time is not productive.
- There is no such thing as “happily ever after”. Life, love, and relationships are not like the movies. Neither is sex.
- Lending someone money can ruin a perfectly good relationship and your bank account.
- This will go against our “give it your best all the time” talk – give 90% at work and save 10% for home. Your family deserves some of your best too.
- Wear Sunscreen. Trust me.
- Remember compliments you receive and forget the insults.
- Using good manners and being respectful can help you land your dream job.
- Love unconditionally. This is how you were raised. Nothing you could ever do or say would make me stop loving you.
- Mental health days are good for the soul.
- Choose a spouse that is also your best friend. That will make you happiest in the end.
- Call your mom.
Of all the boys in the world, I’m glad God gave me YOU to be my sons!
Looking for some books to support writing your Life Lessons?
Do Your Laundry or Die Alone (click here)
The ABC’s of Adulthood (click here)
The Last Lecture (click here)